As difficult as divorce may be for the couple involved, it is harder for children. The actions you take during this stressful time, and the decisions you make about child custody, visitation, and child support will have a long-lasting impact on your children's well-being and their future.
Common Misconceptions About North Carolina Child Custody:
“Mothers always get custody." This is no longer the case. Each parent will have to present a strong case in court for why they should have primary custody—or why they and their former partner can successfully manage shared custody. We work with child psychologists and therapists to document our case for custody if necessary.
“Children can decide who they want to live with." This is not true. If the parents have not reached a decision about custody between themselves, a family law judge will decide. The judge will interview children in chambers and may give consideration to a young person's wishes (especially if they are teens), but the judge will ultimately take a more comprehensive view than a child is capable of taking.
“Visitation is dependent upon child support." It is not. You cannot withhold visitation from your child's other parent because he or she is behind in child support. If you do, you risk being taken back to court.
Whatever the result in your custody decision, you will be co-parenting with your former spouse for years to come. Maintaining or building a good working relationship now will benefit you in the future.